My Family Vacation Swimming in the Open Sea
Like the rest of us, Tom Vanderbilt was dreaming of a new kind of vacation. He wanted adventure and a physical challenge, but also a trip that would appeal to his wife and young daughter. The answer: swimming in the open ocean, day after wet, wild day.
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My wife, my nine-year-old daughter, and I had been swimming for nearly an hour, circumnavigating a reef off a Bahamian island with the rest of our ten-person group, when our guide, Mia Russell, treading water, waved us over. 鈥淕uys,鈥 she said in her singsong South African accent, 鈥渢here鈥檚 a bunch of barracuda following us. Maybe twenty.鈥
I dipped my head underwater, and sure enough there was a line of the silvery, torpedolike fish stretching back into the shimmering aquamarine curtain of liquid as far as I could see through my goggles. 鈥淚f they get too close, I just give them a bop on the nose,鈥 Russell said cheerfully.
I wondered how I felt about this. I had seen plenty of barracuda before, but not in such numbers. In my rational brain, they weren鈥檛 threatening; barracuda often trail divers and snorkelers out of simple interest. My wife and daughter鈥檚 presence, however, had put me in a state of man-dad hypervigilance, with my limbic system on primordial high alert. Only later, while trawling through the internet, would I see words like 鈥渞arely鈥 and 鈥渓oss of tissue鈥 crop up in conversations about whether a barracuda might mistakenly insert you into its food chain.
The battery of barracuda (yes, en masse they are called that) soon shifted course, and we were left to our languid strokes. Scrolling below us was a mesmerizing, diaphanous panorama of rainbow parrotfish and blue angelfish darting in and out of the reef. A sea turtle munching sea grass on the ocean floor put us at ease again.
Later, swimming close to shore, our lone little swim-capped group鈥攚e never saw any other swimmers鈥攑assed a low-slung yacht bobbing peacefully in the afternoon breeze. A woman in a Lilly Pulitzer dress, roused from cocktail-hour serenity by our presence, sauntered to the deck and asked, 鈥淲hat on earth are you doing?鈥 It seemed a not unreasonable inquiry.
A year or so ago, I was looking to break what had become a sort of household impasse. These days my idea of a good trip is one where I collapse on the floor of a hot shower in my sweat-stained cycling jersey, beer in hand, after a punishing day on the bike. My wife would rather collapse into the chair of an art-museum caf茅, petits fours in hand. My daughter splits the difference: she seems equally tempted by a spa visit with mom as a surfing lesson with dad.
What unites us is that we all prefer an active holiday. We like to come home feeling not rested but in need of rest. I wondered if there was a way to avoid the often inevitable feeling that a family vacation is a series of desires curtailed and compromises made, in which everyone wins by somehow simultaneously losing. (鈥淲hy yes, honey, I would love to take you to that fetid microbial sump that you call a water park, as long as you agree to go with us to this fascinating exhibit of post-Soviet conceptual art.鈥)

I wondered if I could get the satisfaction of accomplishment that came with my bike trips without the guilt of taking a vacation from the family. But cycling was out. My wife and daughter weren鈥檛 ready to go whizzing down Tuscan roads in a peloton.
I tried to think of something we could all do and enjoy doing. One afternoon, as I waited for my daughter to finish her weekly swim class, it dawned on me: swimming. My daughter, trained by her anxious parents since the age of three, was clearly competent. My wife seemed to enjoy churning out breaststroke laps whenever we found a pool. And I relished being in the water, although in the past few years this had mostly been on a surfboard. But you don鈥檛 forget how to swim, do you?
For a while, I had been vaguely aware of the growing popularity, largely in England, of what鈥檚 called 鈥渨ild swimming.鈥 Boosted in part by books like naturalist Roger Deakin鈥檚 iconic and a flood of subsequent swimming-changed-my-life memoirs鈥攆rom to to 鈥Britons were increasingly returning to long-neglected lakes and rivers, partly for a spot of exercise but mostly just for the unmediated joy of the experience. Meanwhile a growing number of swim-specific tour operators had emerged, offering trips in places like Croatia and the Maldives. These are like bike tours but in the water, with daily swims of varying distances (often depending on winds and other conditions) broken up by meals and supported by a safety boat, there to replenish swimmers with sugar (gummy sharks were popular in the Bahamas) and keep an eye out for watercraft that might cross our path.
I got in touch with , an operator based in the UK, and after making sure that everyone was cool with our daughter being there, we soon found ourselves on , one of the small Diapontian Islands off Corfu, Greece, in a myth-tinged corner of the Ionian Sea. (Odysseus was said to have been held captive by Calypso nearby.) The island鈥檚 tiny population seemed to consist almost entirely of old Greek guys wearing New York Yankees caps. Many Mathrakians, it turned out, had made their own odysseys鈥攖o Queens鈥攂efore returning to live out their dotage on this quiet, pine-scented outcropping.
The trip was a revelation. Whatever uncertainty I鈥檇 had about the water鈥攜ou will find 鈥淐orfu and sharks鈥 in my browser history鈥攐r my desire to swim through great swaths of it immediately evaporated as we entered the warm, clear, ultra-buoyant sea, watched over by Russell. We would swim twice a day, sometimes hugging the shore, sometimes embarking on crossings of deeper, rougher channels. One day we swam two miles to our hotel from a tall, barren slab of rock our guides called Tooth Island that beckoned mysteriously on the horizon. Sometimes we would swim in and out of coves, looking for colorful fish or elusive crustaceans, exploring tiny, secluded beaches. Midday we would repair to the taverna for a Greek salad. At night we ate fresh fish, drank bottles of Mythos lager, and played Bananagrams.
Nothing you can do in nature is as immersive as ocean swimming. 鈥淵ou are in nature, part and parcel of it,鈥 wrote Deakin, 鈥渋n a far more complete and intense way than on dry land, and your sense of the present is overwhelming.鈥 Our affinity for water is natural, Lynn Sherr writes in Swim: 鈥淲e were fish ourselves hundreds of millions of years ago.鈥 Our bodies are mostly water; our blood courses with salt.
Pool-trained swimmers, writes Leanne Shapton in , can find open water discomfiting. You can rule the pool, but your dominion does not extend to the sea. Winds slow progress, while the pitch and yaw of waves can wreak havoc with a swimmer鈥檚 stroke, even making them seasick. There is a need to constantly orient yourself. Looking down, you sometimes lose the contours of the known world. 鈥淚鈥檓 used to seeing four sides and a bottom,鈥 Shapton writes. 鈥淚 get spooked by the open-ended horizon, the cloudy blue thought of that sheer drop鈥攖he continental shelf.鈥 Not to mention what one source in her book calls the 鈥淲hat the hell is down there?鈥 factor.
SwimQuest鈥檚 founder, John Coningham-Rolls, says his company鈥檚 job is defined by what he calls the leap-and-be-caught principle. Generally, his clients are people who have dipped a toe in swimming and are interested in a larger challenge, but they鈥檙e unsure of how to go about it. 鈥淚t鈥檚 ordinary people doing extraordinary things, safe in the knowledge that they are looked after in the elements,鈥 he says.
In this other world, freed from the weight of gravity and the normal sense of time, people let go in more ways than one. 鈥淔or some people, it鈥檚 a huge emotional breakthrough,鈥 Russell told me. 鈥淓specially if you鈥檝e had a trauma鈥攊t all comes out in the water.鈥 Some people are simply trying to meet athletic goals, but for others something more transcendent happens. 鈥淚t鈥檚 therapy, emotional release. I鈥檝e cried into my goggles,鈥 she says. 鈥淚t鈥檚 this peace that overcomes you in the water, because it鈥檚 quiet. You鈥檙e floating. It鈥檚 comforting. It鈥檚 womblike.鈥
We were hooked. Which is why, less than a year later, we were in the Bahamas for another swim.
Our group鈥檚 base of operations this time was a large, tastefully decorated modern rental house on Great Guana Cay, a long, narrow islet in the Abaco island chain. It is known mostly for a golf-course community on one side of the island, which was built despite concerted opposition from locals and environmentalists and for being originally settled by loyalists鈥攊.e., 18th-century Americans allied with England.
The ten-person group consisted entirely of women, with the exception of me and Guy Metcalf, a British swim coach who, along with Russell, was our guide for the week. This gender skew is common, according to Coningham-Rolls, who reminded me that 鈥渕ost swimming distance records are held by women.鈥
In this other world, freed from the weight of gravity and the normal sense of time, people let go in more ways than one.
Apart from Russell, our guide from Mathraki, the group included Katie, an English pediatrician who lost her husband several years ago. She told me that he鈥檇 always sort of been the expedition leader in the family, and in trying to find her own path, she had come to the water. There was Patricia, a Frenchwoman in her sixties who lived in Chamonix and had taught herself to swim by watching YouTube videos. She exuded effortless glamour, had only recently given up smoking, and seemed to have a lengthy list of companies (H&M, Monsanto) that she was currently boycotting for various reasons. And there were Sarah and Ellen, a mother-daughter pair from the UK who had come to the Bahamas from another wild swimming expedition, a cold-water plunge in Sweden. Ellen, a student at the University of Cambridge, had set herself the goal of swimming somewhere other than a pool every day for a year.
Manning the sag wagon鈥攁 basic 26-foot fishing boat鈥攚as Troy Albury, the co-owner of Dive Guana, who normally takes visitors diving or snorkeling. He was jovial and sun creased, with a joke-riddled patter as smoothly worn as sea glass. As tends to happen in a small community, Troy had various roles on the island. One morning he was late because a tourist had flipped a golf cart and needed to be taken to a hospital. Another day, when someone struck my golf cart (long story), he suddenly materialized to sort things out. Like many people who live on islands, he wasn鈥檛 much interested in swimming, but he quickly grabbed a mask and speargun one afternoon when one of our group spotted a lionfish. He was out of the boat and back aboard, with dinner, in a flash.
As we headed out for our first swim, I tried to size up the group. SwimQuest does have training camps focused on competitive swimming鈥擟oningham-Rolls had phoned me from Croatia, where he was leading a group of 13 swimmers on six-hour outings in 60-degree water. (They were preparing to tackle the English Channel.) But our week was billed as a holiday. You could push as much as you wanted, but the distance and pace weren鈥檛 meant to be punishing. Still, as someone who prides himself on a certain fitness, I like to know what I鈥檓 up against. Looking around at the present company, I decided I had nothing to worry about.
I soon realized my mistake, that I was making assumptions from my experiences with cycling and running that didn鈥檛 apply here. The polite older women, upon entering the water, transformed into powerful engines of hydrodynamic efficiency. I found myself falling behind, and not at all for lack of effort. To my surprise, my daughter, who I鈥檇 worried wouldn鈥檛 be able to keep up, was actually passing me. 鈥淭echnique, technique, technique,鈥 Coningham-Rolls had told me. Fitness only gets you so far in the water.
Unfortunately, my new passion for open-water swimming coincided with the fact that I actually did not know how to swim. The lessons I got at the Y as a kid were intended, as one swim coach told me, to keep me from drowning, not to help me move effortlessly through the water.
There were fundamental problems with my form that I didn鈥檛 even recognize as problems: I didn鈥檛 even know what I didn鈥檛 know. I often wondered, for example, why swimming laps left me more out of breath than my level of effort suggested it should. My problem鈥攁 common one鈥攚as that I was holding my breath underwater and attempting to both inhale and exhale when my head broke the surface. This is a recipe for hyperventilation. As the noted swim coach Terry Laughlin, author of , has observed: 鈥淥ne of the major differences between swimming and land-based sports is that breathing in the water is a skill, and a fairly advanced one at that.鈥
I had been trying to work out some of my issues before the Bahamas, but a lifetime of neurons firing in a specific pattern had left a serious imprint. Also, the lack of decent, uncrowded pools near me had been an issue. Russell asked how much I had been swimming since Mathraki. I said you could count the number of occasions on one hand. She shook her head.
As we gathered for a video review of my stroke, it was clear I had a way to go. My arms were not so bad, mostly because I had internalized the trick of dragging your fingertips along the surface as your arm prepares to enter the water. 鈥淵our right-arm recovery is really beautiful with that high elbow,鈥 Metcalf said. Some lessons I had taken too literally. A long reach is generally prized in swimming, but I was overextending, my hand landing on top of the water, like a seaplane, rather than cutting into it at an angle, like a jumping dolphin.
The main problem was my legs. I had thought I could overcome other deficiencies by simply pounding the water on the strength of a lifetime of soccer conditioning. But I was kicking from my knees, not my hips. As my knees bent, my churning legs dropped down, creating serious drag鈥攆or a moment, Russell thought the video was playing in fast motion. All that frenetic motion was, as Metcalf noted, 鈥減retty useless.鈥 My spastic kick, Russell said, was not pushing the water back but down. 鈥淚f you did the bend kick really fast,鈥 she said, 鈥測ou could actually go backward.鈥
Which is how I often felt I was going.
The days assumed a pattern: My daughter, who I had heard鈥攚ith a mixture of admiration and envy鈥攑raised by the coaches for her 鈥減owerful kick鈥 and 鈥渇lexible ankles,鈥 was typically up front with the faster swimmers during the four to five hours we were in the water. I would keep pace for a while but eventually find myself flagging. With incompetence masquerading as chivalry, I would swim near my wife, with her slower, steady breaststroke.
After the day鈥檚 swims were over and the others in our group flopped into chairs to read, I tried to regain my dignity by going running in the punishing, humid heat. On the fourth day this backfired. After a seaside lunch in Hope Town, I started feeling light-headed. What I thought might be food poisoning was actually sunstroke. Chastened, I lay in the boat drinking Cokes as Troy played me a selection of Bahamian rake-and-scrape songs and watched everyone else swim.
I wanted to get from one point to another, on my own steam, in a series of little quests. I wanted not to sit on a beach but to swim to one.
My travails in the water, paradoxically, were what I loved about the trip. For one thing, it seemed useful that my daughter saw her father鈥攗sually the authoritative figure giving her feedback on her running technique or answering all the questions in a trivia game鈥攕truggle to try and get better at something. For another, she got to hang with an intergenerational group of women united by a common passion. She had a genuine role model in the globe-trotting, acrobatic Russell, who had designated my daughter her apprentice 鈥渕ermaid,鈥 praising her for retrieving plastic from the water (鈥淥cean warrior!鈥) and coaching her on how to safely tickle a stingray on the chin, if you can call it a chin.
I also appreciated that the ocean was, for me, a big blank slate. On a bike, I had a precisely calibrated sense of my performance metrics (and a feeling of obligation to meet or exceed them). With swimming I not only had no sense of what good swimming times were, but I found that I didn鈥檛 care. I had no answer to the inevitable question, 鈥淲hat are you training for?鈥 I simply wanted to get from one point to another, on my own steam, in a series of little quests that my wife and daughter and I could do together and commiserate about later. I wanted to see the beauty of the ocean while it was still there to be seen. I wanted not to sit on a beach but to swim to one. And when we did this鈥攖o visit the swimming pigs at No Name Cay鈥攚e caused nearly as much gawking as the aquatic swine themselves.
We鈥檙e already arguing about where to swim next year.
Contributing editor Tom Vanderbilt () profiled Jesse Itzler in 颅December 2018.