It can be overwhelming to realize how much of the world there is to see and how limited one鈥檚 time and resources are to experience it all. While there is no shortage of inspiration, from of (including from 国产吃瓜黑料) and countless social media accounts, Sandy Cunningham, co-founder of 国产吃瓜黑料鈥檚 adventure travel company , says that in her more than 25 years of experience planning dream vacations, the key to traveling well is creating a list that focuses on the types of experiences that will fulfill, challenge, and transform you, rather than of pretty destinations. My bucket list will change over time as I do. But to get started, I talked to Cunningham to create a list of five buckets,听or experiences I want to have, and filled them in.
1. The Bucket With a Twist

Start off听with an experience you鈥檝e thought about often, no matter how familiar or overdone it seems. But rather than going to Hawaii to surf or Nepal to trek, tailor it to you and your budget听by picking an unusual location where the activity is offered. During the pandemic, Cunningham used this approach to safely navigate travel restrictions鈥攁nd introduce her clients to places they would have never thought of if their go-to destinations had been available. For those who wanted, say, , she instead suggested for its fly-in wilderness lodges that could be linked together for a circuit, world-class guides, and abundance of wildlife.
I鈥檝e always wanted to see wine country with my mom. Napa feels like an obvious choice, but we鈥檝e both already spent a lot of time in California. After some research, I found鈥攖o my surprise鈥攖hat Moldova, a small country in Eastern Europe, just north of the Balkans, has three historical wine regions and is home to the world鈥檚 largest wine cellar, the , which has 120 miles of underground tunnels. We鈥檒l base ourselves out of the capital of Chisinau for easy access to over a dozen wineries, plus densely forested mountains, winding rivers, and the听, an ancient church built into the side of a cliff.听
2. The Trip that Scares the Sh*t Out of You听

Travel is about challenging yourself in all kinds of ways. So why not take it a step further and use it to confront your fears head-on? Step 1: Pick something that scares you or feels out of character. There鈥檚 no need to make it a sufferfest鈥攊f the entire trip fills you with dread, it鈥檒l be a chore听instead of an experience you want to put time and money into. Go with an experience that holds as much fear as it does fascination. Step 2: Pair it with a place that you really want to see or someone you love traveling with.
As a child, I used to have recurring nightmares about tsunamis and deep water. So when I travel, I usually stick to the mountains. For years, my best friend, who loves the ocean and is a certified open water scuba diver, has been trying to convince me to go on a trip with her. She鈥檚 pitching me on Cairns, Australia, which she says is great for beginners: warm water, stunning biodiversity, and still-living coral reefs. She says it鈥檚 like 鈥渟wimming through a children鈥檚 book.鈥 I鈥檇 trust her with my life, and everything we do together ends up being fun. So bucket list item #2: get scuba certified down under with my best friend at my side.
3. The Re-Run听

I went to Costa Rica on a high school trip and have been thinking about returning ever since, but travel to new places always seem to take priority. During my first trip, we spent a week on a secluded turtle preserve on the country鈥檚 east coast, went on day hikes through the rainforest, and rafted on the legendary Pacuare River.听
Cunningham says that one of her favorite types of trips to plan is those that 鈥済ive people reasons to go back to places they鈥檝e already loved.鈥 Pick one of your all-time favorite trips鈥攖he one that you always say you鈥檇 go back to in a heartbeat鈥攁nd go deeper. You can never see all of a place in one go, so there are bound to be corners left to explore. But to make your next trip really special, Cunningham suggests seeking help from a local expert like a guide or agent who lives in the region.
When I go back to Costa Rica, I鈥檇 like to go on longer guided hikes in the rainforest to learn more about its unique flora and fauna. I鈥檇 like to see the country鈥檚 western coast, known for its beaches and incredible volcanoes, which I completely missed on the first go. And I also want to spend more time in cities like San Jose, so I can get a taste of the country鈥檚 culture and鈥攎y favorite part鈥攊ts food.听听
4. The White Whale

Not all bucket list travel has to be far-flung, once-in-a-lifetime endeavors. There are lots of ways to have big adventures that are closeby or on a budget. To pull these kinds of trips off, Cunningham recommends saving on accommodations and splurging on experiences. But if the trip of your dreams does require some saving, and you鈥檙e having trouble reconciling spending all that money on a one-off adventure, consider picking one that comes with a long term reward.听
During quarantine, I started putting some of the money I鈥檇 usually spend on going out, traveling, and events into a separate savings account as a way to make the most of my time stuck at home. It wasn鈥檛 until I figured out a way to combine two of my travel goals鈥buying a van and embarking a months-long cross-country road trip鈥攖hat the account really started to grow. I realized that convincing myself that it鈥檚 worth spending so much of my hard-earned cash on a single trip is the hardest part. I got over that barrier by planning a trip that felt like an investment in myself, and one that, while expensive, would give me a lot of bang for my buck.听
In my case, the van and the time off will be costly, but having a long term and cost-effective way to see my loved ones who are scattered across the continent will be priceless. If #vanlife isn鈥檛 on your list, consider getting certified in an outdoor pursuit in a place you鈥檝e always wanted to visit (you鈥檒l often find more affordable courses abroad) or going somewhere that will help you advance your skill level in a short amount of time, like a sports camp or a beginner-friendly destination.
5. The Off-Map Excursion听

Cunningham says that the most memorable moments for her clients are often those that are unexpected. 鈥淭here鈥檚 got to be some surprises when you鈥檙e on the ground,鈥 she says. She often builds them into the trips she plans, like the time that she added time on an itinerary to hide a surprise sunrise hot air balloon flight in Namibia.
If you鈥檙e planning the trip yourself, build serendipity into your vacation by leaving some of it unplanned and going offline. Pick a place where you speak the language, don鈥檛 consult the guides, and leave your phone at home. You鈥檒l be surprised by how small interactions with locals will deepen your experience and lead you to unexpected discoveries. I鈥檝e found that the things I discover myself often give me the most joy when it comes to travel, because they feel more earned.
For this bucket list item, I want to make a trip all about the unexpected by heading to Barcelona for a week鈥攏o cell phone allowed. I speak enough Spanish to get by, and am familiar enough with the city from being there once before. During my short lived stay a few years ago, the best moments were the ones I didn鈥檛 plan, like the time I got swept up into a street festival filled with fireworks and costumed dancers and when I wandered into a hidden plaza adjacent to an incredible church.