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Tormetina Sao-Burwick in New Zealand in 2013
Tormetina Sao-Burwick in New Zealand in 2013 (Photo: Somira Sao)

How to Grow an Adventurous Family

What compels a couple to spend months at sea with their four young children? A burning desire to do something different.

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Tormetina Sao-Burwick in New Zealand in 2013
(Photo: Somira Sao)

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In June 2011, with a nine-month-old and a two-year-old in tow, photographer and writer Somira Sao and her husband, James Burwick, a mountain guide, professional skipper, and marine consultant, set sail aboard their 40-foot carbon-fiber racing boat Anasazi Girl to cross the Atlantic from Maine to France. 鈥攁nd then kept on going, adding two more members to their family as they sailed around the world over the next six years.

Sao had fled Cambodia as a two-year-old with her family in 1979, during the Khmer Rouge regime, and eventually settled in Maine. She says she wants their children鈥擳ormentina, ten, Raivo, seven, Pearl, five, and Tarzan, two鈥攖o see that 鈥渢he world isn鈥檛 so big after all.鈥 Aside from being dismasted by a rogue wave off the coast of Chile during one particularly stormy passage, their years at sea were filled with invaluable family time. They completed their circumnavigation of the globe in May 2017.

This June, the family relaunched Anasazi Girl in the Caribbean. Sao, who is expecting their fifth child in December, says they are considering selling the boat and switching to a catamaran to sail Polynesian style鈥攋ust a paper chart, the stars, and a few simple navigational tools. She spoke with 国产吃瓜黑料 by phone from a dock on Grenada.


鈥淲hen we got pregnant, we said to each other, 鈥楲et鈥檚 keep the adventure going. Let鈥檚 not settle down.鈥 After I gave birth, I did not have that nesting feeling. This traveling, changeable lifestyle with the kids became a natural extension of how we were already living.

Before our Atlantic crossing in 2011, we had never even gone on a day sail with the kids. We figured that if everyone was miserable, we could pull into port in Canada. We had an amazing trip鈥21 days nonstop to France鈥攁nd realized that this lifestyle was much better than living in a van. All of a sudden, we were eating baguettes and Camembert. No looking for hotels, no searching for a place to camp.

I wouldn鈥檛 encourage novice sailors with no experience to go sailing with their kids, but I do feel like parents should be able to do what their skill and comfort level allow. James had 32 years of experience as a professional captain and a solo circumnavigation under his belt. I felt very familiar with the boat from helping him prep for his solo voyages. We didn鈥檛 see it as endangering our family.

The kids have learned adaptability, understanding, problem-solving, and risk management. They know what it takes to accomplish a really big project. They have a broad knowledge of the world and many different cultures. We involve them in every step of the voyage鈥攎aking lists, maintaining the boat, working on the mechanical, electrical, plumbing, sails, lines, and rigging, using navigation instruments, provisioning, and prepping safety gear. They have an understanding of limited resources, that fresh water, power, fuel, and food are not available endlessly at sea. What they don鈥檛 have is a set idea of what鈥檚 expected in life. A lot of kids grow up with this assumption that you鈥檙e going to go to school, go to college, get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids, raise them, and then retire.

In 2014, on day 21 of a passage from New Zealand to France, a gigantic rogue wave knocked us down and broke our mast in three places. Nobody was hurt, but we were stressed. We stayed calm and did not panic. We were 13 gallons short of diesel fuel to make it into port. After about 48 hours, a Chilean navy ship picked us up, and the captain offered to tow the boat into Puerto Williams, so we didn鈥檛 have to abandon ship.

When we鈥檙e on our boat, we鈥檙e not just on a two-week vacation visiting a foreign country. We鈥檙e actually living in different places around the world together, making long-term friendships beyond what a short trip can allow. I wouldn鈥檛 trade any of it鈥攏ot even the experience of getting dismasted.

The longest passage we鈥檝e done is 32 days, from the Cape Verde islands across the equator to South Africa. The kids make a lot of art, do origami, play games. We read books out loud and watch movies. It鈥檚 a different type of reality when we鈥檙e at sea. All that stimulation from land is gone, and you are left with the basics of nature鈥攕unrise, sunset, subtle changes in light, clouds, and sky. They notice the changes in wind, sea, all the elements.

Many people we鈥檝e met while sailing and traveling have become our kids鈥 teachers: biologists, engineers, doctors, naval architects, professional sailors, professional athletes, sailmakers, filmmakers, musicians, actors, artists. These world-class leaders and innovators are who we want our children to learn from.

Making a big passage may seem overwhelming to some, but for our kids, these seemingly hard problems are not that difficult to accomplish. They鈥檝e learned that whatever you want to do, it鈥檚 possible to break it down into smaller, more manageable pieces to accomplish the big goal.

We鈥檙e looking for clean air, clean water, clean dirt. A lot of the voyages that we did, especially in the Southern Ocean, allowed us to be in very remote and wild places that people never get to see, and to show the kids that these untouched places still exist.

Each port we鈥檙e in, we say, 鈥極K, is this working for the family?鈥 If not, then we make a change.

Anasazi Girl is a boat designed for one person, so it鈥檚 always too small. But you know what? When it鈥檚 nice out, it鈥檚 fine. We live mostly outside. With boat life, there鈥檚 a closeness that I don鈥檛 think most families who live on land ever experience.

You never know what your family鈥檚 adventure fit could be. There are no rules. It鈥檚 all about making the choice to try something different from the norm.

Right now we don鈥檛 have the financial security of having a house or a big savings fund for college. In my mind, that鈥檚 not really investing in a child鈥檚 future. I believe the time we invest in our kids now is what is important.鈥

Lead Photo: Somira Sao

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